Stretch into Your Skin

It always amazes me how fear can interfere with what we want to do. A friend of mine called me today and said, "Debra, I did it, but I was scared and uncomfortable." I asked her what she was afraid of and she said she was afraid the answer to her ask would be "No". Guess what? The answer would still be no if you never asked for what you wanted. What if the answer was "Yes!" We tend get uncomfortable doing things we are not use to. I like to think of the discomfort as stretching into the skin you were meant to be in. It is when we get too comfortable that we must continously strive to stretch ourselves out of that comfort zone.

Have you ever noticed that when you ask for what you want, you get excited and nervous at the same time?  The excitement and nervousness can be put to great use in your learning curve. Take that enthusiasm and savor the moment. What does it feel like to see yourself hearing the "Yes"? Music to your ears I bet!

You can choose to hang onto your fears and your doubts or you can summon up the courage to go after what you really want in life. Too often, we catch ourselves looking for the approval from others instead of from ourselves. Fear and doubt may even numb you from taking action. When people try to talk you out of your dreams, they do so because of their own fears and doubts. It does not necessarily mean they do not believe you will succeed. It is important for you to believe in your dreams and for you to continue to take steps toward reaching your goals even if they are small ones. You will never be able to realize the full impact of the small steps you take until you reach your big destination.

Lead a fearless life!

 

The Power of Asking For What You Want

Many people become paralyzed at thought of asking for what they want. They fear the answer may be no!If you do not ask for what you want the answer will always be no!The power of asking the right question helps us gain knowledge, clarify information, and get what we want.

In the past year, I have learned some very simple techniques that have served me well in asking for what I want:

1. Know that you can ask for what you  want.
2. Discover why you are afraid of asking.
3. Be very clear about what you want to ask and why.
4. Whenever possible, create a win-win with the person you are asking.
5. Believe that you deserve what you ask for.

As each person gets in the habit of asking for what they want, the asking gets easier each time. Ask! Ask! Ask!