Believe You Deserve It

One of the greatest things holding us back from living to our highest potential is that we question whether or not, we deserve what we desire.There is enough in the world for everyone to go after their dreams and goals. My vision for my life is not the same as yours. It belongs to you and no one else. The big question is, " Who can tell us that we do not deserve something?" You have a choice. You have the choice to ask for what you want with the intention that you will receive what you ask for.

"If you follow your bliss, doors will open for you that wouldn't have opened for anyone else." - Joseph Campbell.

Know What You Want. Clarity is the key. You must have a clear idea of what you are asking for and why. You will only receive what you want to the extent that you were clear. What does your end result look like? You are the one in control when you ask the question you wish to ask. How will the person you are asking benefit from your "ask"? Think about it. If you created an "ask" based on a win-win relationship, why would the answer be no?
Believe, it is possible and you deserve it. If you do not ask with confidence and conviction, the person you are asking may wonder how important it would be to answer your question. How bad do you want it? You may want to role-play with a colleague or practice in the mirror before you ask. You are meant to be, do , and have great things in your life. You need to BELIEVE IT!


Go out and ask for what you want!

Put the Brakes on!

Self-limiting beliefs or negative self-talk are obstacles that you need to put the brakes on. The internal chatter of telling yourself, "No, you do not know enough to do that" or "You never finish a task" needs to be extinguished. You see, skillsets can be learned but a mindset has to be changed. What kind of pep talk would you give your friend in a similar dilemma? The true obstacle to your success is you. You let yourself listen to the chatter and stop gaining the momentum you need to reach your goals. Even worse, you may give up on your goal all together. Do you really want that?

5 Ways to Stop the Internal Chatter and Release the Brakes

1. Acknowledge the negative self-talk but do not entertain it.
2. Stop the thought. When you hear the negative talk, just say "stop".
3. Reframe each negative thought into a positive thought.
4. Ask yourself. "Is this thought 100% true?"
5. Wear an elastic band on your wrist, give it a snap when you think negatively. A quick reminder to change you thoughts and change your life!

Your thoughts are very powerful. You can make things happen with the right state of mind.

Vision Board Your Future to Reality

Stay True to Your #1 Resource

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born." -Anais Nin
 Surround Yourself with Successful Like-Minded Individuals. Create relationships and a circle of friends that support you. It is so important to be around people who think the same way as you. It is invigorating to share ideas, stories, and thoughts with these individuals. You may lose a few friends along the way because they do not carry the same mindset as you. At first, this may be disheartening but the question you have to ask is, "Do you wish to move forward and be around people who support you and wish you well or do you want to stay stuck doing the same things you have always done? Surround yourself  with people supprot you and want you to grow as a person. Make new friends. Get to know people who have the qualities you admire or who have accomplished what you wish to accomplish. Ask them out for a coffee or lunch. You may even ask them if they would mentor you. These are the people who challenge you to grow and assist you in reaching your goals.

Who is your mentor? Who can help you take your career and life to the next level?

Count Your Diamond Moments

"At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark of another person.  Each of us has cause to think deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." Albert Schweitzer

 

 

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ave you ever noticed when you start being grateful for the little things in your life you realize that more things enter your life to be grateful for? This is the attitude of gratitude.  Being grateful does not cost anything but it is truly an investment in yourself. This is the ultimate secret to your success.

Count Your Blessings Daily.  Write down things you are grateful for every night before going to bed.  It could be that you reached your sales quota this month or perhaps you mended a customer relationship. You might wonder why is this so important. Meeting a sales quote is an expectation and once it is achieved it needs to be celebrated because it will motivate you to achieve more.  A customer relationship that has been mended will help with promote you in a positive light as it reflects how you dealt with the situation and how you continue to do business with that customer. Your customer is important to you.

When we start to notice all the little things in our lives, we realize how big they actually were. What are 5 things you can be grateful for today?

Go the Distance - Give it a Tri!

The snow is melting and I am starting to contemplate participating in a couple triathlons. I enjoy triathlons, mainly because of the variety of activity and the challenge of transitioning from one activity to the next. They can be done individually and as a team.

Our businesses and our personal lives are really not that different than a triathlon. A triathlon is an endurance sport. It is all about how you face the challenge of completing each portion of the race and how smoothly you transition into a new portion of the race. If you do not pace yourself, you may not be able to sustain your momentum.

“Endurance is one of the most difficult disciplines, but it is to the one who endures that the final victory comes.” -Buddha

Know where your strengths lie. Continue to develop your strengths. Your weaknesses will diminish as your strengths increase. Practice. Take a course and sharpen your skills. Challenge yourself to the next level. Many of us do not know what we are capable of, until we try. Are you giving 100%?

“Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.”-Unknown

Your Circle of Influence

Who is in your circle of influence?Are they family, friends, colleagues, or business acquaintances? Do they support your goals and desires? 

Surround Yourself with Successful Like-Minded Individuals. Create relationships and a circle of friends that support you. It is so important to be around people who think the same way as you. It is invigorating to share ideas, stories, and thoughts with these individuals. You may lose a few friends along the way because they do not carry the same mindset as you. At first, this may be disheartening but the question you have to ask is, "Do you wish to move forward and be around people who support you and wish you well or do you want to stay stuck doing the same things you have always done?" Make new friends. Get to know people who have the qualities you admire or who have accomplished what you wish to accomplish. Ask them out for a coffee or lunch. You may even ask them if they would mentor you. These are the people who challenge you to grow and assist you in reaching your goals.

Millionaire Mom - Million Dollar Advice Under Your Nose

Are you inspired and committed to make things happen? Do you need a mentor to point you in the right direction?  I had the great opportunity of connecting with Millionaire Mom, Joyce Bone, www.millionairemom.com. The tagline says it all "Because Every Mom is Worth a Million". As mompreneurs, we are often juggling many different tasks and duties everything from shuttling kids to baseball practice to climbing mountains of laundry while running a business. We are ambitious, dedicated, and motivated to achieving big dreams. Joyce Bone's recent blog http://millionairemomsblog.com/ sends a great message - there are mentors right under your nose. Are you taking advantage of it? All you have to do is ask. Look at what  the successful women around you are doing - going after what you want, does not mean you have to go it alone!

The Ultimate Decision - To Be or Not to Be

Choose to BE POSITIVE. Be gracious when enduring life's challenges. There may be some bumps in the road that you did not anticipate but look to the lessons learned from those bumps. They are meant to develop you into someone who can persevere and be confident in taking care of whatever comes your way. People are attracted to others who are positive and full of enthusiasm.

What good things are coming your way?

The Power of Asking For What You Want

Many people become paralyzed at thought of asking for what they want. They fear the answer may be no!If you do not ask for what you want the answer will always be no!The power of asking the right question helps us gain knowledge, clarify information, and get what we want.

In the past year, I have learned some very simple techniques that have served me well in asking for what I want:

1. Know that you can ask for what you  want.
2. Discover why you are afraid of asking.
3. Be very clear about what you want to ask and why.
4. Whenever possible, create a win-win with the person you are asking.
5. Believe that you deserve what you ask for.

As each person gets in the habit of asking for what they want, the asking gets easier each time. Ask! Ask! Ask!

Steeping Moments

After a great lunch, I headed out for an afternoon tea with Catherine Armstrong, http://www.armstrongtraining.ca/, she helps people work with people through training and development. It always amazes me that we have so many accomplished individuals that we can learn from and share with yet we do not take the time to get to know them. Who can you share your ideas with? Who can give you the "nudge" to get going?

My challenge to you is to meet up with someone who inspires you or challenges you to new heights. Discover what you can do for each other and share your challenges. Keep it simple - breakfast, lunch, or just a coffee/tea. Let me know how it goes!

To Your Success,
Debra

Delicious Insider Tips

Welcome to the Millionaire Woman Minute!

What an amazing day I had today! I had lunch with Kim Duke, www.salesdivas.com, she is one of the phenomenal women that I have interviewed in my audio product - The Secrets of The Millionaire Woman Audio Series, www.millionairewomansecrets.com. Every time I get together with her I always learn more about what I should be doing in my business and how I should be supporting others in theirs. I thought that I would share a couple insider tips that we discussed over lunch.

1. You are already more ahead than you think. Take a look around you. If you are in motion, you are going places, meeting people, and learning new ideas of how you can build your business. Keep taking action!


2. Be grateful for your past experiences because they have given you the skills and knowledge that you can apply in your everyday life. They will be the springboard to bigger and better adventures.


3. Always think win-win. When everybody benefits, we all win! Find ways to joint venture or collaborate to build your businesses and your relationships. The possibilities are endless!